Monday, August 31, 2009
Sunday, August 30, 2009
We are so excited about the birth of our second REMIX location for Relevant Student Ministry in the Exit One area of our city. Yes we will still have our first REMIX location going strong at St. B, but now we will have a location targeted at reaching West Creek and Northeast High and the middle schools that serve those high schools. How are we going to start a new location? We are partnering with OneChurch (http://www.exitonechurch.org) to create another gathering for teens in a different part of town. We can partner because we have the same strategy and heart for reaching students. We can partner because it is going to take more than business as usual to reach students in Clarksville. Ryan Millard (the family pastor @ OneChurch) will be leading a new team of volunteers and a new band at our REMIX / exit one venue. Both locations will be teaching the same series, using the relevant students website, and focused on helping teens find community through small groups. For the address and more info about the ministry go check out http://www.relevantstudents.com
This is an experiment that we feel God has led us to take. Our hope is that Relevant Student Ministry will keep providing teens in a Clarksville a safe place to connect with others, rethink faith, and discover what life looks like as a follower of Christ. Please pray for both locations of REMIX as we strive to serve teens and their families! Are we done adding locations...you will have to wait and see!
Friday, August 28, 2009
Thursday, August 27, 2009
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
- We worked hard to put the small group team together and tried to explain our expectation right up front as we recruited leaders. We want to be clear up front about this adventure!
- We gave each leader a small group leader packet so they could read over our strategy for leading group. This packet had all the details so they could look back over it on their own time.
- We did a Sunday morning training with all our leaders. It was one focused 45 minute session but it was enough time to cast vision and work through the training issues we needed to hit.
- We gave our small group leaders the names and ages of the kids they would be leading early so they could be praying for their group.
- We launched groups and gave our leaders a chance to engage their groups. The only true way to learn about leading a teen small group is to do it!
- We followed up with leaders at the end of the night to encourage and coach more.
- We have plans to meet for training times one more time this fall and again in the spring as we continue to coach our group leaders! Waiting till later in the fall and spring gives us a chance to ask the leaders what areas they need help with! They help plan the coaching process!
Monday, August 24, 2009
Sunday, August 23, 2009
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Thursday, August 20, 2009
- provide students a significant mentoring relationship in their life through our group leaders
- allow time for teens to TALK BACK, to express what they think about the message, their questions, their hope, and their doubt!
- enable us to empower many student leaders instead of just one or two from the stage
- make it possible to do small events that make a huge relational impact in a teens life NO MATTER HOW MUCH WE GROW AS A MINISTRY! a small group of 9 can do or go just about anywhere, try that same event with 200! (bowling, movies, concert, camping...ya know)
- ensure we can stay connected with kids on a weekly basis
- discover students that want to be discipled on a deeper level
- provide another adult leader who parents can know is spiritually investing in their child! Parents can know there is another adult out there that will care about their teen growing in their faith and will be a stable presence in a chaotic season of life.
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
How often have you heard, “But you promised!” when you have no recollection of ever discussing whatever it is that you apparently promised your offspring? I have heard it plenty of times, so I decided to write an article about how to communicate with teens, and then, hopefully, I will take my own advice.
Be careful what you say “yes” to:
If you do say “yes” to whatever it is that your teen asks for, make sure you put it in writing. This is especially important for parents who, like me, suffer from short term memory loss. I have also had the peculiar experience of saying yes to something my clever offspring have asked while I was sleeping, and then having no recollection whatsoever of this alleged conversation when I wake up.
Make sure that you include any foreseeable conditions under which your “yes” could be rendered null and void. For example, if my sixteen year old wants to go to a party on Friday night, I automatically state the proviso that her chores need to be completed before she can go. She knows this, but it still has to be stated, so that she can’t get away with a technicality.
Written promises should also include any conditions over which you have no control. For example, if you said, “Yes, this weekend we will go to the beach if the weather is nice.” This condition needs to be more specific, as the term “nice weather” is much too open to opinion.
Reserve your “no” responses for requests that are worth the battle:
Once you have said “no” to a request from your teen, you need to stick to it. If there has ever been an occasion in which you said “no” first and then gave in to whining, I am very sorry to have to tell you that you have just created a monster. A very whiny monster at that. I am speaking from experience, fellow traveller.
Choose your battles wisely! Parenting guru Barbara Coloroso advises parents to save your “no’s” to requests that are illegal, immoral, or life threatening.
Beware of when you’ve said “maybe”:
Your “maybe’s” will come back to haunt you. If you say maybe to almost every request, it gives your beloved offspring legal grounds to keep asking you, trying to wear you down.
When you say maybe, you need to set out the terms under which you will give a more definitive answer. Tell them to write out at least three very good reasons for why they so desperately need whatever it is that they are bugging you about. If their list consists of: “#1. I want it. #2 I need it. And #3 all my friends have one”, then you have a parental responsibility to ask them if they would follow all of their friends off a cliff; and to remind them that you are not their friends’ parent; and especially that money doesn’t grow on trees.
Don’t say maybe just to get them to stop bugging you now (I know this is very tempting, especially if your favourite show is on TV). If you need to know more details before you can give an answer, then say so - define the details you need, and then follow up quickly (once the show is over). Don’t keep stringing them on with maybe, or else they will never leave you alone.
Don’t let them use the old “two parent spin off”:
Be aware of this tactic, and don’t let them get away with it. This means communication with your spouse or co-parent. If you co-parent with an ex, then communication is much more difficult, but at the same time much more necessary. When your teen asks for something, try to remember to ask them if they have asked the other parent first. In our house, if dad said no, and then they come to me and I say yes - then there will be consequences to follow.
I do give my kids the option of appealing to Dad. If I say no to something, sometimes I tell them that they can ask Dad to see what he thinks.
If at all possible, try to say “yes” more often:
Here I am referring to their requests for your time, not for things that they want you to buy.
Don’t tell your kids this, and please don’t tell mine! I know that you are tired and that you just want to veg out and watch some TV. But if your teen asks you to help her with her soccer moves, or for your help on her homework, or for you to go with her to the mall; I just want you to know that these requests won’t keep coming if you always say no. Teens very quickly replace their parent’s values and counsel with that of their friends. If your teen is still seeking your advice, don’t lose the opportunity. They grow up so quickly, and soon will be out of your home. Don’t waste the precious time that you have with them.
If your teens are already dissing you (did I use that verb correctly?); if they are already dressing in black with black nails, lips, and eye liner; and if they are already down to monosyllabic responses to your questions - don’t lose hope! And don’t respond to their behaviour unless it is illegal, immoral, or life threatening. (If it is, please seek out appropriate help from police, clergy, or where ever you can find it). Don’t stop loving them, and for heaven’s sake don’t let yourself be sucked into unwinnable arguments. Do the best you can, treat them with respect (even if they don’t treat you with respect - you need to be the adult!) and have patience! Once they turn 30 and realize that not too many places will hire people who dress like vampires, they will hopefully add some colour back into their lives.
Monday, August 17, 2009
Friday, August 14, 2009
- The REMIX band...WOW you guys did an amazing job getting ready for this fall and it paid off big Wednesday night. Will Mckelvy hit a home run leading.
- The Crowd...to all of you who came, YOU ARE AMAZING. We had one of our biggest crowds at REMIX and the energy was thick. We get to serve an amazing group of students here in Clarksville.
- our REMIX small group leaders...for tons of our leaders this was their first night at REMIX. We watched out new team get to know kids and serve and we are so stoked about this group of leaders. WE LAUNCH SMALL GROUPS next week!
- Katrina Watts...you did an amazing job getting all he administrative stuff ready to go. Thanks so much!
- Tech team did a great job dialing in the sound and video this week. Great job with managing the environment.
- Nate Edmondson, great job planning the worship set and producing the intro video. I am going to miss ya man!
- Parents...thank you for letting us partner with you to invest in your teens. Thanks to all of you who stuck around to experience night one at REMIX.
- Grace Community...thanks for supporting Relevant Student Ministry and allowing us to think outside the box as we invest in teens and families. REMIX is what it is because Grace Community has supported the dream financially. Thanks so much for believing in us!
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Fr: Nelson Searcy
Re: I'm concerned
I'm writing because I'm concerned about you.
For the last three months you've been hearing about my Senior Pastors Tele-Coaching Network that begins NEXT WEEK on Thursday, Aug 20. This network is all about helping you and your church go to the next level of growth and impact.
I've done everything I can to tell you about this network . . . I sent you a 30-minute Q & A video . . .I sent you the unedited testimonies from those who just completed the network . . . plus several other email and mailed invitations for you to apply.
. . . but I still don't see your name on the application list!
Frankly, I find that puzzling.
Look, if you are interested in seeing your church grow and your leadership ability increase, I urge you to apply right now.
. . . stop whatever you are doing and go to this Web site, download and complete the application:
WHAT? Nelson, have you ever read a Seth Godin book about permission marketing? I just find the email funny. I have never met Nelson. I am not sure why he is concerned about me. I am glad he is tele-coaching and I will apply if I want to. Who will read that email and say...WOW I THINK I WILL APPLY TODAY! It is never good to sell ideas and mentoring that hard. If you have to work that hard to get people plugged into a coaching network or sell a mentoring service you might want to rethink your strategy. So there ya go...just a little vent about a crazy email today. What do you think? Is this leadership marketing gone too far?
Monday, August 10, 2009
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Saturday, August 8, 2009
Another way we want to expand is to partner with other ministries and churches. This year we are embarking on a partnership that we hope will take Relevant and our strategy to another part of our city. This fall Relevant Student Ministry @ oneChurch (http://www.exitonechurch.org) launches along with another Remix venue targeted at the exit one area! Yes, can you believe it, we are expanding through a partnership and we are partnering with another church. What unites our 2 churches is strategy and branding. This is a new effort and we are working out all the details, but we are stoked about the potential. Relevant Student Ministry is built around some unique principles that help us to focus on small groups, create engaging environments, partner with parents, and do less for more impact. We want to spin these values forward in our city through strategic partnerships and a multi site mindset. Our hope is students across our city will know that Relevant is not focused on building a group in just a single church but reaching students across our city with the message of Jesus Christ. Our prayer is that Relevant Student Ministry will continue to be a movement and not an institution. Look for more info about this partnership on www.relevantstudents.com!!
Friday, August 7, 2009
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Monday, August 3, 2009
- CAMP is an amazing week to connect with students. I needed to be reminded of that this year. When you have been in student ministry a while (10 years) you need reminders. We watched God work in the hearts of students at high school and middle school camp. Never discount what God can do in a life over a week.
- Connect Events worked for us (just fun events for us to connect with students like the theme park, game night, etc.) so glad we were able to bring students together just to connect all summer.
- Interns...are AMAZING. Nate and Lauren did amazing work all summer and went all out to invest in teens all summer. It was a great start to the intern process here at GCC.
- Momentum...I have been told by teens all summer that they cannot wait for REMIX to come back this fall. We have gained momentum by taking time off. Less is MORE! (yes I am glad Remix is back too!)
- Speaking...loved getting to speak at 2 camps this summer. It was great to connect with leaders and teens at both camps. Thanks Spring Creek, One Church and FBC Owensboro for letting me be a part!
- Family...loved having Chelsea and the girls at one of the camps I spoke at and our high school mission trip to New Orleans. It was great to have them with me serving. When I can have my kids with me at camps or trips I am going to try to make it happen. It works for our family.
- Flip video...having the flip video camera made getting great video all summer so easy. I also fell in love with IMovie 09 on my mac. Video updates from our events really helped us let folks back home know what was going down.
- Serve New Orleans...was amazing. Our team faced some challenges but going back to the same community to serve again this year was so rewarding. It was amazing to see kids this year we met in 2008! Committing to a city and investing is the best way to do mission trips with students. Stoked about 2010 already.
- Making memories matters...summer is a great season to make memories with teens. In the summer we help students have incredible relational and spiritual experiences. When I talk with former students we always go back to memories of past experiences. What we do during the summer matters. Summer ministry is significant. We have some crazy stories from this past year from all our events (bull horns, bathroom emergencies on vans, prune pong, where tennis shoes are made, RUDE) but you had to be there to get it!