FREE STUFF // Some videos we used in our Family Experience

This past week we had our first family experience of the fall for parents and K-5 kids called Cross Street Live. We changed up the format to make it more like a "So Random" type of flow this season. I was really proud of Adam Bayne, Van Riggins, and all our CSL team. I wanted to share the three commercials we did just for a laugh...if you want to use them, go ahead they are great. The last one is one you have seen but it is one of our favorites so I added it here also!

Tunnel vision will kill ya (probably just limit ya!)

If you are not a fan of the University of Tennessee then you have no idea who this guy is. His name is Matt Sims and he stepped in for our injured starting quarterback this week against the #1 team in the country. Things really didn't go well for Matt because of one thing. He had tunnel vision. Matt threw a few interceptions at big times in the game because he was locked in on one receiver and did not look for the other players who were open. Tunnel vision in ministry will kill you in the long run because you will miss other opportunities that will help your team advance. I see this play out for leaders all the time. They think their idea is the best way to solve an issue and they fight for their good idea over an idea that might be great. When we allow tunnel vision to control our leadership decisions then we often choose the live in the good at the expense of the great. You know you are a leader with tunnel vision when...

• You constantly want to make sure you get credit for solving a problem.
• You limit the input of others when a problem comes up in your organization.
• You never ask for help when problems arise.
• You fight harder for your idea than you do for forward motion in your organization.

When you are a leader with tunnel vision you will continually make good choices over great ones, demoralize your team, and lose momentum. How do you get beyond it...humility, teamwork, and becoming a learner. Lose your tunnel vision and start being a big picture leader!

Pick the right leaders!

This past weekend I went with my family to Sky Top Orchard in South Carolina and we picked apples. Sky Top was amazing. We got a few baskets and went out into the orchard and started looking for apples. We are late in the season so the closest trees had been picked clean so we had to walk to the trees at the back of the orchard. When we found the trees we figured out that we had to be careful of what apples we picked. There were tons of apples all over the ground that had fallen and were rotting. (My dog liked those!) On every tree there were apples that were not ready to be picked because they had bad spots on them or they were just not ripe. There we also perfect apples that have now turned into a few perfect apple pies. It took more patience to look for the right apples to pick but that really is what determines what the final result will be when we  use them at home.

Picking the right leaders for your ministry setting is no different. Picking the right leaders takes patience, discernment, and faith. Rushing the process means we choose people who simply do not fit. If you want to improve your ministry setting then work harder at picking the right volunteers who will become your leaders! The right people will make ministry happen not a new room, new band, lights, or event. Make sure you are bringing the right people on board.

Cross Street LIVE...this Sunday @1:30!

Yes...we are stoked to have the new season of Cross Street Live starting this Sunday (family lunch at 12:45 and CSL at 1:30) at the Rossview Campus of Grace Community Church! CSL is an experience where kids bring their parents to church. We have new actors, new dancers, new videos, new games, new everything coming this week. We know fall break is wrapping up this Sunday so make it count with your kids and get to Cross Street Live. Sunday is going to be epic! No matter where you go to church on Sunday make sure your family is at CSL, it's open to the entire community! Here is a sneak peak at what CSL looks like!

What's next?

What's next in youth ministry...the church...children’s ministry? I get asked that question often and I think about it constantly. I can’t help it. I was a young leader trapped in churches designed for a past generation for years. When I got to Grace Community I promised myself that I would spend the rest of my ministry trying to push young leaders forward and allow them to influence me and the ministry we craft for students, teens, and adults. After traveling to churches across America I am sure that we are allowing this generation to shape our environments at Grace. I watch young adults, teens, and college students worship right beside parents, business leaders, and grandparents every week and it's a beautiful thing. If we want our churches to be open to this generation then the church has to continually be turned over to them. It has to be “their place.”

This past weekend I was told about a church in Southern California called Rock Harbor. Doug Fields told me...:you have to see this church” so we went and I am so glad we did. We showed up for the 7 PM service and I’m glad we got there early. I got to watch over 1500 (may have been more) pack the room. The building was well designed but simple in form and function in a business park in Costa Mesa. The stage, projection, and lighting were well designed but simple. The band went for it, the speaker taught a clear and powerful message from scripture, and the people responded to our great God. The room was packed with people 16-30 just going for it. The presence of God was thick and it was the only time I have felt like I was at a Passion event in a church. Rock Harbor is pursuing what is NEXT by empowering this generation to speak into what they do as a church. Will you be willing to do what it takes to create space to reach this generation? I promise some people will not like it but I also promise if you don't then one of this generation will plant a church next door and do it. We will not wait...the time is now. Next is coming fast, do something.

great environments for teens...

Had the honor of hanging out with Kurt Johnston, Josh Griffin, Jared Kirkwood, and Matt McGill and see the student facilities at Saddleback and Mariners Church. I wanted to see these to facilities because I so respect these 2 churches for doing student ministry with excellence when they did not have permanent space. I promise you can make any facility work for teens if you work hard at crafting the environment...it just takes work, planning, and a little cash. Both churches had the chance to craft these spaces from top to bottom and both did amazing things. There are things I prefer about both of them when it comes to a space. Maybe one day we will get to design a space like this for teens in Clarksville. Here are a few pictures...thanks to these leaders for letting us see their environment!

Student Facility @ Saddleback

Student Facility @ Mariners Church

Lunch with Doug Fields...

Great chance to sit down and have lunch with Doug Fields last Friday...check out Doug online here. Doug has been a distant mentor to me over the years, distant in that I have read all his books about three times each and he has been a huge encouragement to me over the years. I was so grateful for the time and thankful to my friend Terrace Crawford for setting up the meeting. Trying to put the entire conversation into words is a little overwhelming for me but there were a few things that stood out...

• You can stay in student ministry when your kids are teens. / Yea I'm getting older and I'm processing what my girls in our student ministry will look like. Doug said give your kids space, empower other leaders to invest in them them, and put family first and it works!
• When you need to add staff think about an intern process. / I asked Doug about when to add staff and he brought up the idea of 2 year intern process where you bring guys in, provide housing, and empower them to lead. 2 years makes it possible for both the church and the leader to gain in the process. Love that idea.
• Partnering with parents of teens mean involving them in the journey / keep parents in the loop so they know what we are talking about, showing up when you say you are going to show up after that retreat with their kids, be available, give teens quality small group leaders...that is how you can set parents up to win.
• Every church as it's own challenges /mega churches, small churches, house churches, missional churches, liberal churches, conservative churches, non-denominational and even denominational churches all face challenges. The church is a living organism therefore every church has some sickness. Face it, work to heal it, and lead through it.

Thanks Doug for the time and for your investment in my life over the years!

Kidmin Conference, California, and all in one wild weekend!

It's going to be a wild weekend for our Family Ministry team at Grace Community Church. This weekend 4 of us are getting away to hit a conference and visit some churches on the west coast. I am headed to check out the student ministry at Saddleback Church and Mariners Church in California with my friend Terrace Crawford. Our Kids Ministry Team is heading to Chicago for the Kidmin Conference learning from some of the best children's ministry leaders around the country. The reason this kind of stuff matters is that leaders have to strive to be learners. Our team never wants to stop asking questions and learning from others. Praying this weekend brings big ideas for our family ministry team. Look from some cool stuff from California on the blog this weekend.

week of chaos

This week if just a little different...well it is simply crazy. I call it the week of chaos and these weeks tend to show up once or twice a year. I have a friend who suddenly got the news that his fiance was in a car wreck and passed away. I have another friend who is fighting for his marriage. I have worked with a few teens in the middle of crisis. Chelsea and I found out the transmission in our 2007 Ford Freestyle was jacked and we had to get a new vehicle. This has been a week where nothing seems quite right. These kind of weeks come not matter what we do. This is life. We all have these kind of weeks. It's in these times when I am reminded of the importance of working ahead, planning ahead, and leading through a team. When a chaotic week hits adjustments have to be made and it is in those seasons that we see if we are really empowering a team or if we are leading solo. I am going to make it through this week because of last week and the great team around me. You never know when your chaotic week is going to come. Work ahead, plan, and choose to empower other leaders around you!

So your ministry is growing...now what?

Growth is good. I have never met a leader who didn't want to see growth in their ministry. Growth means more people are discovering Christ, finding community, and serving others. Growth is also relative. Relative in that each year God gives us a new perspective, new goals, and new opportunities. The crazy thing about growth is sometimes it can lure us into playing it safe, getting comfortable, and settling for good over great. If your ministry is growing then you better work hard to... 

• Get smaller // a big crowd is great but life change happens through one on one relationships. Bigger just means you better have a plan to get people in small groups fast!
• Get personal // return phone calls, answer emails, write a note to a volunteer. Getting bigger just means you have to work harder to stay connected to those you lead!
• Be authentic // get over yourself. Be real, be you, be consistent, be transparent.
• Be bold // stay and do what God is calling you to do even if people walk away. People stopped following Jesus when He led. I bet some people stop following you.
• Get risky // go for it! Growth just means you next risk is going to be bigger. Faith leads to risk.

Guess what, in the Kingdom of God we can't settle. Glad the ministry you lead is growing...now get back at it and keep moving forward!