Saturday, January 10, 2009

she is a MESS

I have an older responsible daughter named Kozbi but this girl is a MESS. Kelyn is a mess and with her dad with her this weekend she has managed to...
  1. go to timeout at least 15 times for hitting someone
  2. sit down in the road and get her pants soaked while we were puddle hopping outside after rain
  3. pick up a bottle of Fred Flinstone vitamins and eat like 8 of them...WOW
  4. take a permanent marker and color her hands and get some on our coffee table, still on the hands, it is off the table!
I love this girl, she keeps us HOPPING!

great season for Titans TERRIBLE way to end it!

MAN, that was a terrible way to end the season for the Titans. Just got through watching the game with some friends at our place and we all just were in shock mode after the game. This one hurts...really bad...I hate it hurts so much. I am so proud of this team for the year we had. I said before the game if Chris Johnson went down we would lose! He goes down and and there it was a big L. A no call delay of game at the end of the game and 2 fumbles in the red zone also killed us. The Ravens did what they had to do. Props to them. I hope they get beat like a drum next week. Let me say...Good job Defense, good job offensive line, good job Kerry Collins.

The off season starts now, lets resign Kerry and # 92 and lets get a new weapon at receiver and try again in August. Go Titans! Great year, HARD loss...

Friday, January 9, 2009

living with your head up...

The Bible is such an amazing book. Every time I pick it up I find stuff that blows me away. Reading it is one of those things that is a challenge for all of us because we just have a hard time making it a priority. In the past I found myself reading it asking God if He could show me things that would help me know him better, love Him more, see Him more clearly. I was reading it with my head down and focusing on my own needs. I was asking God to reveal things for my life, that I needed. There is so much there for our lives in the pages of the Bible, but there is so much more God wants us to discover. I have been trying to read the Bible with my head up. Looking outward and inward. Asking God to show me each day I read it to show me something I can give away to others. Asking God, what about this verse will help me serve others, love others, give to others. God does not just want to shape our inward life, He is passionate about the life we live out. Scripture should shape the actions we take each day. It should bring change that reveals itself in the choices we make. Lets read it with our heads up...looking...aware God is at work.

Thursday, January 8, 2009

what other youth pastors never tell ya!

There are so many things that youth pastors do not talk to each other about. Not sure why! Maybe we just want to talk about all the good stuff God is doing because in private we all get frustrated with the hard parts of serving in a student ministry. These are those, WHY DID NO ONE EVERY TELL ME THAT moments. They are big, we just forget how significant they are so as they creep up I am going to blog about them. Here is the latest one...

January 1, of whatever year you are in will GREATLY effect the momentum of the ministry you lead.

We had our first night back since fall last night. It was a great night. Really, God was at work. The new series, the band, lifegroups went well. This is what was different last night. Every year, in every student ministry I have led the kids come back from Christmas break and they are in the MID YEAR FUNK. In years past when January came I would run to my office after the student gathering and want to QUIT wondering what happened! What did we do wrong! I promise I picked up on it last night. It is just hard for teens to engage. There are so many factors for our community BUT no matter what, things are different when Christmas break is over and it is like this every year. Fall is an amazing time of the year with tons of natural energy and momentum in the lives of teens. Make the most of it and be ready to deal with the different vibe in January. It just takes a few weeks to gain the momentum back and it will never be as strong in January- May as it is in September. Ministry in January-May has some great opportunities but also different challenges. Just be ready for it!

dream bigger

What are some of the dreams you have for the student ministry (church, organizations, etc.) you lead? What are you praying your students will become? What kind of vision of you casting for your teens to go after? I think many of our dreams for the student ministries we lead center on filling up a room, having lots of baptisms, pulling off good events, and keeping the crowd excited about what we are doing. Why do I say this? I was there! I was all about taking the next step...reaching the next goal...it is a worthy cause but is it really a compelling dream for teens to go after with all of their life. Most of us cast the vision of come and change your behavior, enjoy your youth group time, and stay away from the bad stuff in the "world". Kids learn that being a follower of Christ is about coming to events, classes, camps, retreats, and it all is so safe. Following Christ looks like a manageable "part" of life.

One of the ideas we are experimenting with and carrying out at relevant is calling kids to a bigger dream, the dream Jesus had for His followers. It is a risky dream. It comes with cost. It might be hard BUT asking kids to invest their lives in things that matter is really what each of their hearts long for. We all long to see our life count, to stand out, to do something that is significant. This month we are freeing our small groups up to adopt causes (bloodwater, International Justice Mission, fixing the Homeless problem, Toms Shoes etc...). The kids get to pray as a group and go after the cause they want to fight for. It flows from their heart! This month we are going to do a huge benefit concert to raise money for Cancer research...why...why not just hold a rally with some games and a speaker that makes kids feel guilty and promise to do stuff. BECAUSE CANCER KILLS KIDS EVERY DAY AND CANCER SUCKS AND WE CAN FIGHT THIS FLIPPING DISEASE and our faith demands we take action. Jesus is calling us to care more about compassion that our "youth room" our extreme winter conference, our little party. Events are not bad, youth rooms are not bad, but Jesus is calling us to influence a generation for His fame and His plan.

So I ask...what are the teens your leading dreaming about. Lets dream some big dreams! Lets allow teens to make a difference. Lets lead teens to the gospel and then release them to LIVE the gospel!

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

what are you for?

Swerve is a blog I continually gain insight from. Craig Groeschel is an amazing pastor an leader here in the United States and someone you need to look into and learn from. If you are a leader you have to be a learner and this is a guy has some amazing insight. I am so passionate about shaping organizations and creating environments and I have always felt it is small to define what we are by screaming to others what we are not and throwing rocks at other organizations. Go add http://swerve.lifechurch.tv/ to your blog list and enjoy...check this post out from Craig, GREAT thought!

Who Cares What You’re Not?

While traveling, I listened to podcasts from three of the most well respected pastors in the U.S. All three started by explaining what their church was not. I’ll paraphrase what they said.

Pastor One: “We never water down our message. We don’t preach a seeker sensitive message.”

Pastor Two: “How many of you have been to boring, dead, traditional churches? Churches like that shouldn’t even exist! I’ve got some news for you! We’re not your grandma’s church!”

Pastor Three: “We don’t preach topical-feel-good, entertainment sermons at this church. Most churches are into tickling ears and making people feel good about themselves, but that’s not us!”

My Rant: I’m thrilled you are passionate about your style of teaching and church! It is very likely a true reflection of your gifts and calling. I pray God blesses your church in every way.

But don’t build your church on what you’re not!

If you do, you’re training the people at your church to believe your way is best and everyone else’s is inferior. Who cares what you’re not?! Be who you are without making others look like they are less.

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

what do we do with our denominations?

Perry Noble wrote the other day on his blog that denominations (I am paraphrasing this) are DONE, on the way out, lost. That is a strong statement. (Perry is never afraid to make strong statements and I so respect him) It does seem that most denominations in our country are trying to protect their institutions and traditions instead of advancing the Kingdom of God. Now please hear me, I have friends who work for denominational organizations that are very passionate about seeing the fame of Jesus spread all over this country and our small planet. I am not sure what denominations will look like in years to come but if they want to be useful these organizations are going to have to be willing to restructure in order to support the local church and mission work around the world. Ed Stetzer had this to say in the Tennessean today, I thought it was great insight...

Stemming SBC Membership Decline


LifeWay Research recently reported that the SBC had declined in membership. The SBC growth rate has been slowing for decades but last year was the first year of decline in a long while--but trends say that more will follow.

The SBC I care about is in decline. Yes, it's part demographics (i.e. we're historically rural and such regions are in numeric decline) and ultimately changes have to be made at a local church level. But, many believe there are issues the convention can acknowledge and address to help turn around the decline. Denying the facts won't help, nor will a theological left turn, but there are things that need to change to reverse the decline.

When the news came out, some in the SBC stuck their heads a bit deeper in sand saying, "We're doing just fine, thank you!" They believe trying harder without change is best. Besides, they say, the SBC is not shrinking as fast as liberal denominations--which seems to me like bragging that our sunset is brighter than theirs.

On the other hand, some "finger waggers" will propose that the answer is to move leftward theologically. Yet, regardless of one's theological views (and that is important), no evidence exists to support that a leftward shift will grow a denomination--generally, the more liberal a denomination is, the faster it is declining.

Yet, a growing number of us believe that change is needed in the SBC. Let me suggest a few of those needed changes.

First and most importantly, the SBC must refocus on the gospel. The convention has become big, bureaucratic, and distracted by so many things--from politics to boycotts to programs. In the process, we have, at times, lost the focus on what was once the main thing: being, doing, and telling the good news locally and globally. We must return to our "first love" (Rev. 2:4), Jesus, and then show and share his message. We need gospel change.

Second, the SBC must address the continued loss of leaders. Ongoing denominational conflict has hastened the depopulation of young leaders. Furthermore, ethnic leadership remains mostly absent after decades of ethnic change in America.

Yet, such change will require an openness to other approaches to church and ministry from different cultures and generations. Openness will be difficult since preaching against other ways of doing church still gets the "big amen" at the SBC meeting-- even though the "Amen Corner" is getting older and smaller every year. If we share a common theology, we need to hold out a chair and ask new generations and ethnicities to sit at the table of leadership. We need leadership change.

Finally, infighting must not define the SBC. It is public knowledge that Baptists do not always settle their differences amicably at the convention or local church level. If "Baptist" and "bad-tempered" are synonyms to the average American, the trend toward decline will only accelerate. We need a heart change.

Can the tide be stemmed? Yes. Will it? Realistically, the "odds" are against it. But, I am one who believes that if we obey God's leading, He can continue to use even an imperfect people like Southern Baptists.

Monday, January 5, 2009

what do I value?

I know some of you get tired of me saying this but here goes once again...I love serving here at Grace Community. For anyone out there who goes to GCC you know Sunday was an amazing day and an amazing gathering to start 2009. Ron said a short statement in the middle of the message that really stuck in my mind yesterday. You can hear the entire message on our podcast at www.gcomchurch.com. The statement was simple and short but it is still bumping around in my head today. Ron said the our values shape our behavior. We "do" or "engage" or "support" things we value.

How we value health determines our work out plan for 2009.
The value we place on money determines how generous we will be in 2009.
How we value our wife determines how we communicate with her!
How I value the Titans determines if they will be Baltimore Saturday....oops that slipped out!

The incredible thing about this line of thinking is that we get to influence what we value. We can choose to place value on what we want and God allows us to choose. I can choose to value my time with God. I can choose to value other people. I can choose to value things that do not come naturally to me that God is calling me to value. Maybe instead of working on our 2009 goals we should first examine what we hope to give value to in our life first then make the goals. Just something to think about...

Friday, January 2, 2009

that place everyone talks about...

Hooked on this show on the food network. One of my favorite restaurants in the world is Bell Buckle Cafe in Bell Buckle TN, a place just like you see on the show. Guy needs to visit Bell Buckle! There are some things that stand out about all the places the show visits...here is what I am seeing.
  1. somebody had a dream to do things "their way" and started a new restaurant
  2. every "dive" started with a risk...there is not a shortage of restaurants anywhere!
  3. every "dive" does something unique that makes it stand out
  4. every "dive" has a few things they do and do well, none of them do EVERYTHING!
  5. people who come say they have a great experience each time they come back
  6. people tell others about the amazing food they get at the restaurant, the product is real!
  7. the "dives" stay packed because they deliver and because PEOPLE CAN NOT STOP TELLING OTHERS ABOUT IT!
Ok ok ok...we need some youth ministries, children's ministries, college ministries, and church plants to watch this show and think about what they can do to stand out. YES I AM BEING SERIOUS! Here is an idea...we need God to give us unique visions for the unique cites, and unique cultures we serve and we need to be willing to take the risk to make it happen. What about what you do stands out as SPECIAL or UNIQUE to the ministry you lead. I know there is balance, I strive to learn from others and look for what WORKS all the time. I have implemented some great things from other ministries in our church and family ministry BUT nothing makes me more excited than when God shows our team something unique that we need to implement for our local environment! When you can look at something that works at your place that is unique is the moment you get to throw your hands up and give GOD the credit. That really is the goal...God gets the credit!

So....what makes your "dive" stand out? I am done here I am going to finish this episode on food network!

Thursday, January 1, 2009

how long is too long...

Happy New Year everybody! 2009 is here and I am very excited about the challenges of a new year. I have been watching football all day. I am a huge college football fan and this week of bowls is GREAT, I love every minute of it and the only thing that could make it better would be a college football playoff. I want to see USC play again against Florida or Texas!

Watching the Rose Bowl today and watching Joe Paterno coach from the press box, never coming to the field during pregame, never going to the locker room at the half, never interacting with his team, made me ask as a leader how long is too long. Can a great leader stay too long at the helm of an organization, a team, a company, a church? I feel leaders can stay too long. Leaders never stop leading but our titles and roles change and must change as we age. There is an art to passing on leadership to the next generation. There is a time to move on and age is only one factor. The roles we have are a gift from God and from the people we lead. None of us get to say we have earned our position and we get to stay as long as we like. That way of thinking places our wants and wishes ahead of the organization. All of us need to finish strong and we need to plan to finish strong! If we are blessed to lead an organization long enough we also need to pray through how we empower the next leader also. SO, can a leader stay too long? what do ya think? Has Coach Paterno stayed too long?